Listen to your feelings without blowing things out of proportion. Your feelings are telling you something valuable. If you’re feeling jealous, your emotions are telling you that something is happening that you don’t like. They may or may not be accurate (you’ll learn to assess this by being open to exploring the feelings) but sometimes, your gut reaction is warning you that there is something you need to be observant about.
- For example: Your boyfriend or girlfriend may be more flirtatious with other people than you would like. Rather than assuming the worse, realize that your partner may not even realize that their behavior bothers you. Nevertheless, boundaries need to be set so you both know what’s appropriate and what’s not in terms of interacting with other people. Ask your partner where he or she draws the line (Flirting? Kiss on the cheek? Peck on the lips? Shoulder massage? Dancing?). See if your partner’s boundaries match up with your preferences. Together you can then work through the issues. Talk it over until you can find common ground. Once it’s established, trust your partner and don’t let jealousy get the best of you.